Favorite Quotes

I need some inspiration today and thought it would be great for me to re-read and share a few of my favorite quotes.  I find that I can be in the worst mood ever, but seeing these quotes can quickly boost my mood and vibration.  Hope it helps you if you need it today too!

“Remember that the reason you are doing this is to make your life better.”

“What you think, you become.  What you feel, you attract.  What you imagine, you create.”  Buddha

“You are somebody’s perfect.”

“Accept – then act.  Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.  Always work with it, not against it….This will miraculously transform your whole life.” – Eckhart Tolle

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”  – Dalai Lama

“Unsuccessful people make decisions based on their current situations.  Successful people make decisions based on where they want to be.”

“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.” – Eckhart Tolle

“Six months from now you can be in a completely different place mentally, spiritually, and financiallu.  Keep working and believing in yourself.”

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”

“You are responsible for your own happiness.”

“What others think of me is their choice, what I think of myself is my choice.”

“I say “Out” to every negative thought that comes to my mind.  No person, place or things has any power over me, for I am the only thinker in my mind.  I create my own reality and everyone in it.” – Louis Hay

“Don’t look back – you’re not going that way.”

“A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.”

“I do not fix my problems.  I fix my thinking.  The problems fix themselves.”

 

“When you focus on the good, the good will find you.”

“One day these 5ams will make you a legend.”

 

Buffering

I just finished listening to a podcast from Brooke Castillo on Buffering.  It’s #132 and titled Stop Buffering.  All of Brooke’s podcasts give me something new to think about but this one really hit home.  She explains buffering as using things, substances or activities to numb our feelings.  Some people over drink, some over eat, some shop, some watch Netflix to zone out and not feel things.  Basically we do something so we don’t feel anything negative.  Buffering never solves the problem at hand and usually it makes it worse.

Why are we so scared to feel things? I am terrified of negative emotions.  Years ago I had a boyfriend and it wasn’t a good situation and I was always scared I would wake up in the middle of the night and think about it so I would take sleeping pills to ensure I wouldn’t have to deal with those negative emotions at 3am.  Looking back on it that seems so stupid – if a relationship is so bad that you need to drug yourself to sleep that is a major issue!  But I was too scared to feel things.

Since my DUI, which you can read about here: Life Updates , I haven’t been drinking very much and i have had to deal with negative emotions.  I’ve realized they won’t kill you!  They will pass.  I have learned so much about myself and what I really want.  I am a big believer in the Law of Attraction and follow Abraham Hicks and know that you need to be able to feel your vibration and align that with what you want.  If you are always drinking or eating to numb your feelings you are also dulling your vibration – this will never help you attract what you want using the Law of Attraction.  You are going to make it so much harder instead of easier.  I believe this is why I attracted my new Love while sober.  I was finally a vibrational match for him.

I am fearful that I will go back to buffering in the future.  I get anxious when I am bored and tend to over drink or over eat then.  I have always pushed myself in school, starting my business, working out, etc that there wasn’t a lot of down time.  So now when I have free time I panic.  I am slowly finding out what I like to do when I have free time that isn’t just over drinking to check out.  Sounds weird to say that I don’t know what I like to do for fun at 34 but its true.

Do you buffer?  What feelings are you trying to escape from?

Intentions

I believe intentions are somewhere between goals and affirmations.  If I set an intention I think I intend to head in that direction with my life.  For the last year or I have practiced rewriting my intentions each day in my journal.  I haven’t always been consistent but when I am in the habit of doing it first thing in the morning it helps to set the tone for the day and reminds me what I am striving for.  But if it feels like something I have to do or I am just rewriting them to cross it off my to do list then it doesn’t feel nearly as good so I skip those days.  I wait for the days when I am aligned to rewrite them, and luckily that is most days.

I find it most peaceful and motivating for me to meditate and then rewrite the intentions as I am sipping my first cup of morning coffee.  With dogs, and alarms and early meetings and everything else that doesn’t always happen.  But when it does it is magical.  Sometimes as I write each one I shut my eyes for 30 seconds and visual the completion of that intention and how that would make me feel.  I can usually lock in to the warm, inspiring ,juicy good feeling.  If I can’t then I rethink the intention that doesn’t get my good feelings flowing.  Typically that means it is something that I think I should want but really don’t.  If that is the case then I stop practicing that intention.

I currently have 7 intentions.  I find between 6 and 9 to be a manageable number of things to be focusing on.  Here are my current intentions:

  1. I am an exceptional wife to the man of my dreams.
  2. I am honest.
  3. I weigh 119 and have 23% body fat.
  4. I manage $30 million in assets.
  5. I am kind and loving to myself and others.
  6. I have a healthy relationship with alcohol.
  7. I am kind and loving to myself and others.

Do you set intentions?

Recent Reads I

Reading has been one of my favorite hobbies for as long as I can remember.  Growing up my favorite day of the month was the day my Babysitters Club Books came in the mail.  I think they would send 3 per month.  Does anyone else remember that?  They were the best!  I belong to two different book clubs now.  One is more of a book exchange and one is a true book club.  Books are a big part of my life!  Below are a few that I’ve read recently.

Beyond

This book followed three women who attended West Point and their lives after.  It was good but not great, I had a hard time feeling anything for the characters.  I like when I get drawn in and they feel like friends – I didn’t get that feeling with these characters.  However, I would read another book by this author to try again.  I believe this was her first novel.

 

Behind

Behind the Beautiful Forevers is my book club pick for this month.  This is not a book I would typically choose.  Usually I choose light, happy books.  This was NOT that.  I enjoyed it and it definitely made my appreciate my comfortable, safe life in the US.  The way people live in India is so sad.  This book showed how hard daily life is – the lack of food, clean water, safe homes and all the corruption.

A Little

Ugh I could not get into A Little Life.  I read about 80 pages and decided to quit. It followed the lives of 4 different men in their 20s in NYC.  It just wasn’t for me right now – maybe at another time.

TheBook

I just started The Bookshop on The Corner by Jenny Colgan.  So far it is light and cute – I don’t feel that it will be earth shattering or forever change my world but its a nice read.

Have you read anything good lately?  I am always looking for suggestions!

Love

I’m in love and want to tell the world!!  I have found the most caring and thoughtful human.  He is kind and sweet and a really, really good person!  Its funny because I knew him for about 3 years before we started dating and would see him every week.  However he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend when we first met.  But I did go to lunch with him after we first met and I remember leaving lunch thinking “Wow if I were single I would totally want him”

It all happened very quickly but doesn’t feel that way!  We moved in together after only 2 months of dating but it just felt right.  We have been together about 5 months now and it feels like its been years – in a good way!

He is teaching me so many things!  For one he is showing me how to slow down and enjoy life.  Not everything is a rush or a task to be completed.  I am always trying to be in the moment and more present and he is definitely helping with that! I’m also learning to be more compassionate and open minded, everything isn’t black or white.  He loves and accepts me the way I am – he isn’t trying to change me and he is teaching me to accept myself and love myself.  I am prone to beating myself up and its something I struggle with.

His family has welcomed me with open arms.  His parents live close by so we spend a lot of time with them.  Its nice to be included!  My family life has changed a lot in the last ten years or so after my parents got divorced.  I still see and spend a lot of time with my Dad but its not the same so this feels really good.

I know we will have an exciting and happy future.  I have no doubt that he is the man for me.

 

Life Updates

A lot has changed since I last posted.

This isn’t new – but its new for the blog.  In September 2018 I got a DUI.  I was embarrassed to even type it here even though I am the only one that reads this.  Now that more time has passed I am okay admitting it.  The whole event was terrifying and I take full responsibility for making a very very bad judgement call.  I am so grateful that I didn’t hurt anyone.  I would have never ever been able to forgive myself.

Part of my punishment is probation which means no alcohol.  This has been tough and eye opening.  I have figured out a few ways around it and have drank a few times but not a lot.  I have found some social situations to be extremely hard to be in and others are okay.  I think it depends on my mindset going into the situation.  I also like knowing I can always leave whenever I want too.  If I feel stuck or trapped and everyone is drinking I have a much harder time.

I started dating someone new in January and its great.  He drinks often, pretty much daily and when we are at home that doesn’t really get to me.  However, we spend a lot of time with his parents and they are so nice and kind and welcoming and they drink too.  They know about the DUI and they don’t seem to judge me for it.  But sometimes when the four of us are together and everyone is drinking but me it gets tough.  We will have dinner and I am fine and then the night lingers on for several more hours and that is when I get antsy.  I’m not good at sitting still as it is but this makes it very very difficult.  I am trying to look at these situations as opportunities to grow and appreciate the moment and enjoy the people I am with but sometimes I just want to scream.

For instance, last night I lost my patience and I wasn’t very kind to my BF. I haven’t decided yet what I am going to refer to him as on this blog.  I will do an entire post on him soon because he definitely deserves it.  He is the sweetest, kindest person.  I feel very lucky.  But we’ll save that for another day.

I am glad I typed this and feel like i got it off my chest:)

Have a kick ass Saturday!