Online date #2 was awful! I met him on Tinder. After Date #1 I was hoping for someone who didn’t drink as much. I thought it would be fun to get to know someone without alcohol. This guy wrote in his profile that he rarely drinks. He also said he was an engineer and a father of a 5 year old son. I am okay with dating someone with a child. I am 33 and am looking for someone in the 30s age range, I understand at this stage a lot of people have kids. He told me that he likes to play pool, so he seemed like he was still social even though he doesn’t drink. That was important to me.
We decided to meet for dinner. When I pulled up he was sitting outside waiting for me on the bench. He looked like a little kid waiting for the bus. I felt bad for immediately judging but he was very short and had a very small build. I’m pretty sure I could lift more than him. We went in to the restaurant. Typically I would order a glass of wine but since he doesn’t really drink I just got a water. He ordered his meal when the waitress came to get our drink order. It was odd, I barely had a chance to look. But luckily this sped up the night! After we ordered we started talking. Or should I say he started talking. And talking. And talked some more.
I asked him about his son and he was happy to talk about him for 15 minutes, which is great! I love to see dads that are involved and love their kids. After that we talked about his job, which he hates. Then he proceeded to tell me about his ex and how life has beat him down. WHOA DUDE!! No one wants to listen to your sob story on the first date. I asked him if he was looking for a new job or what he was doing about his life. And he said nothing.
At that point I realized two major things. 1. If someone complains about a problem but isn’t willing to do anything about it I have a hard time being compassionate. 2. This was exactly what I was doing in my life with drinking and my diet. I realized I need to be completely responsible for my actions!
So even though the date was a bust I did learn something. And for the record he never asked me a single question the entire night.